Narcissistic Abuse Quotes

“Realize that narcissists have an addiction disorder. They are strongly addicted to feeling significant. Like any addict they will do whatever it takes to get this feeling often. That is why they are manipulative and future fakers. They promise change, but can't deliver if it interferes with their addiction. That is why they secure back up supply.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“No child can be good enough to evoke love from a highly self-involved parent. Nevertheless, these children come to believe that the price of making a connection is to put other people first and treat them as more important. They think they can keep relationships by being the giver. Children who try to be good enough to win their parents’ love have no way of knowing that unconditional love cannot be bought with conditional behavior.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

“But both the narcissist and his partner do not really consider each other. Trapped in the moves of an all-consuming dance macabre, they follow the motions morbidly - semiconscious, desensitized, exhausted, and concerned only with survival.”
― Sam Vaknin, Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited

“In the narcissist's world being accepted or cared for (not to mention loved) is a foreign language. It is meaningless or even repellent. One might recite the most delicate haiku in Japanese and it would still remain utterly meaningless to a non-speaker of Japanese. This does not diminish the value of the haiku or of the Japanese language, needless to say. But it means nothing to the non-speaker.

Narcissists damage and hurt but they do so offhandedly and naturally, as an afterthought…

They are aware of what they are doing to others - but they do not care.”
― Sam Vaknin, Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited

“But that’s the thing about narcissists. They can try to fool you, with all their heart, but in the end, they’re just fooling themselves.”
― Ellie Fox, And then the Devil Cried: Episode Two

“Emotional abuse is designed to undermine another's sense of self.
It is deliberate humiliation, with the intent to seize control of how others feel about themselves.”
― Lorraine Nilon, Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence: A respectful exploration into the ramifications of Paedophilic abuse

“those who get upset for being treated the way that they treat others, will never understand why others treat them the way that they treat others.”
― David J Martinez

“Emotional abuse can leave a victim feeling like a shell of a person, separated from the true essence of who they naturally are. It also leads to a victim feeling tormented and tortured by their own emotions.”
― Lorraine Nilon, Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence: A respectful exploration into the ramifications of Paedophilic abuse

“Narcissists are very retaliative if they believe another has achieved what they desire,
exposed their insecurities, or refused to be under their control.”
― Lorraine Nilon, Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence: A respectful exploration into the ramifications of Paedophilic abuse

“Healing is like an onion. As you process through one layer of trauma to release the pain and heal, a new layer will surface. One layer after another layer will bring up new issues to focus on. Pace yourself. Only focus on one layer at a time.”
― Dana Arcuri, Soul Cry: Releasing & Healing the Wounds of Trauma

“Stop trying to get validation from people who can't or won't acknowledge your feelings. This reflects their inability to empathize. It's a failure on their part and has nothing to do with you.”
― Jacqueline Simon Gunn

“Many survivors of a narcissist discover that they’ve sacrificed so much in an attempt to please the narcissist that they’ve lost sight of who they are. Rediscovering oneself involves reclaiming things once loved, be it passions, friendships, or even jobs. It’s about finding that one thing you used to enjoy and taking it back. Reconnect with your inner child, play, and reintroduce yourself to the joys that make you uniquely you.”
― Tracy Malone

“No one wants to depend on people who brag about their help. It is hurtful.”
― Mitta Xinindlu

“Like a mirror fixated on itself, narcissists struggle to change, for they cannot see beyond their own reflection.”
― Tracy A. Malone, Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up!

“Nancy was as proud as she was critical of her younger daughter. She spoke glowingly about the precocious little girl who said her first sentence at seven months and walked at ten months.”
― Joan Frances Casey, The Flock: The Autobiography of a Multiple Personality

“Malignant narcissists go for easy prey: the sick, the elderly, the young. When I was using drugs so heavily in my twenties, isolated from my family, relying on pills instead of people, I was one of the weak ones—a target.”
― Cat Marnell, How to Murder Your Life

“Even when you've gone full no contact, when does the narcissist actually ever stop with the shenanigans? They never stop trying to destroy you, do they? Your happiness is like ether to them, and your pain is their constant resuscitation. Is there no balm in Gilead”
― Niedria D. Kenny, Order in The Courtroom: The Tale of The Texas Poker Player

“In the intricate ballroom of human interaction, empathy, and narcissism often find themselves locked in a complex, albeit toxic, waltz. Empaths, with their generous hearts and boundless capacity for understanding, are irresistibly drawn to the magnetic charm of narcissists. It’s an attraction as old as time itself, akin to moths flitting towards a flame – a flame that promises warmth but often delivers nothing but singed wings and regret.”
― Life is Positive

“I totally found the iron clad solution for ridding myself of my narcissist ex. Tell him you are doing horrible and terrible (rotate between the two) each time he reaches out violating the no-contact request. He will leave you alone as long as he thinks you are doing terrible or horrible. He will only bother you when he things you are doing well.”
― Niedria Dionne Kenny

“Nobody will ever love you like I do. Who do you think will take you now?”
― Mariette Dicko

“A narcissists love language. A narcissist’s love language is DARVO—deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender—paired with diversions, distractions, and delays, all designed to keep the truth buried and themselves in control.”
― Tracy A Malone, NEW-Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up!

“It’s never your job to make another adult act responsibly. Keep that in mind when dealing with a narcissist.”
― Tracy A Malone, NEW-Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up!

“Few people escape narcissistic abuse without reaching rock bottom.”
― Tracy A Malone, NEW-Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up!

“In a narcissistic relationship, there are moments when the narcissist can be as charming as they were in the beginning. This intermittent kindness confuses the victim, leading them to believe that if they just try harder and cater to the narcissist’s demands, the abuse might stop—when in reality, it’s part of the cycle that keeps them trapped.”
― Tracy A Malone, NEW-Divorcing Your Narcissist: You Can't Make This Shit Up!

“Misfit toys
don't bring
Christmas joy
Shut up and unwrap
your shiny new identity crisis

She's playing mind games
again
And declares herself the winner

As a child,
I looked for a heart for her
at every yard sale
I could only afford
decay”
― Casey Renee Kiser, Doll Shaker

“It's not all in your head. People will look you in the eye and try to make you think you're crazy.”
― Maranda Pleasant, Origin: Music, Art, Yoga & Consciousness

“There are terrible things out there.
Even in places you think there wouldn't be.”
― Mr. Joshua Shaw, I Took a Plane to Die in Denver

“I'm over making excuses for the way people treat me.”
― Mr. Joshua Shaw, I Took a Plane to Die in Denver

“You could give them more chances but nothing would change.”
― Mr. Joshua Shaw, I Took a Plane to Die in Denver

“Sometimes, you lose somebody
to find that love
is meant to return home.

And now,
as I gather the ashes,
I know
I will live and love again,
but this time,
it will be me
who stands in the center
of that flame.
This time,
that love will be mine.”
― Catherine Anne Castillo, In the Darkness of Shards: Poems from a Broken Place