[release-1.6] 🐛 Improve handling of topology orphaned objects

[fabriziopandini]

What this PR does / why we need it:
manual backport of #10277

/area clusterclass

/cc @sbueringer @chrischdi

[sbueringer]

Diffed against upstream/main. Diff looks good!

/lgtm

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LGTM label has been added.

Git tree hash: 8a18f2ad6b414dea5056eebcfe3c44d0272ee859

[chrischdi]

/approve

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[fabriziopandini]

/cherry-pick release-1.5

[k8s-infra-cherrypick-robot]

@fabriziopandini: #10326 failed to apply on top of branch "release-1.5":

Applying: Avoid leaving orphaned InfrastructureCluster when create control plane fails
Using index info to reconstruct a base tree...
M	internal/controllers/topology/cluster/reconcile_state.go
M	internal/controllers/topology/cluster/reconcile_state_test.go
Falling back to patching base and 3-way merge...
Auto-merging internal/controllers/topology/cluster/reconcile_state_test.go
Auto-merging internal/controllers/topology/cluster/reconcile_state.go
CONFLICT (content): Merge conflict in internal/controllers/topology/cluster/reconcile_state.go
error: Failed to merge in the changes.
hint: Use 'git am --show-current-patch=diff' to see the failed patch
Patch failed at 0001 Avoid leaving orphaned InfrastructureCluster when create control plane fails
When you have resolved this problem, run "git am --continue".
If you prefer to skip this patch, run "git am --skip" instead.
To restore the original branch and stop patching, run "git am --abort".

In response to this:

/cherry-pick release-1.5

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