refactor(query): refactor hash join spill

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Summary

Code readability and maintainability

1. New step transition mechanism: this PR divides hash join probe/build step into three types: SyncStep, AsyncStep, and Finish, ensuring that step transition occurs in the event and this PR redesigns step transition to make the step transition logic clearer and improve code readability and maintainability.
2. Unify ProbeSpillHandler and BuildSpillHandler to HashJoinSpiller to improve code maintainability.
3. Unify the spill logic of cross join and other types.
4. Introduce HashTableType to reduce code.

Bug Fixed

1. Fixed a corner case of left-related join when spill happens.
2. Left Anti join can't probe first round when spill happens.

Performance

Improved the performance of partition.

Tests

• TPC-H spill test
• TPC-DS spill test
• Wizard join spill test

Tests

• Unit Test
• Logic Test
• Benchmark Test
• No Test - Explain why

Type of change

• Bug Fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New Feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking Change (fix or feature that could cause existing functionality not to work as expected)
• Documentation Update
• Refactoring
• Performance Improvement
• Other (please describe): code maintainability

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