[v1.9.x] Backport Add MKLDNN Deconvolution 1D and 3D support (#20137)

[samskalicky]

Description

Backport Add MKLDNN Deconvolution 1D and 3D support (#20137) to v1.9.x branch

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• PR's title starts with a category (e.g. [BUGFIX], [MODEL], [TUTORIAL], [FEATURE], [DOC], etc)
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Changes

• Feature1, tests, (and when applicable, API doc)
• Feature2, tests, (and when applicable, API doc)

Comments

• If this change is a backward incompatible change, why must this change be made.
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[josephevans]

LGTM, thanks!