Disable USE_GPERFTOOLS by default

[ZhennanQin]

Description

Because of #8968, mxnet will random crash after USE_GPERFTOOLS = 1. Some end-user may get trouble if gperf-tools is pre-installed. So before fix this, we'd better to disable it by default.

@pengzhao-intel @szha

Checklist

Essentials

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• The PR title starts with [MXNET-$JIRA_ID], where $JIRA_ID refers to the relevant JIRA issue created (except PRs with tiny changes)
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Changes

• Feature1, tests, (and when applicable, API doc)
• Feature2, tests, (and when applicable, API doc)

Comments

• If this change is a backward incompatible change, why must this change be made.
• Interesting edge cases to note here

[pengzhao-intel]

@szha @eric-haibin-lin is there any reason that the gperf is ON by default?
Our customer encountered the crash w/ gperf ON, so we prefer to make it OFF by default.

[pengzhao-intel]

cc @lebeg

[wkcn]

LGTM. I also met the issue about GPERFTOOLS.

[larroy]

LGTM

[pengzhao-intel]

LGTM

Will merge in 24 hours if there are no further comments :)

[szha]

I guess it was decided by an individual as there is significant performance benefit in using alternative malloc. It wasn't thoroughly evaluated and I actually noticed similar issues with tcmalloc, so I'm actually surprised that this is on by default in cmake.

[pengzhao-intel]

Merging now since the BOSS agree :)

[anirudh2290]

I guess it was decided by an individual as there is significant performance benefit in using alternative malloc. It wasn't thoroughly evaluated and I actually noticed similar issues with tcmalloc, so I'm actually surprised that this is on by default in cmake.

An "individual" by himself/herself cannot make decisions in an apache incubating project.

[cjolivier01]

Interesting theory szha, although also incorrect. But disable if you want. Jemalloc is faster most of the time anyway.

[szha]

@cjolivier01 thanks for stepping in. I'd like to hear what you would like clairfy and what option you recommend?