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ETHICAL CONUNDRUMS

Is it worse to be cynical or jaded?

Terry Felstead, London
  • Who cares?

    Jennifer, Bedford, England
  • What's the difference between ignorance and apathy? I don't know and I don't care...

    JD, Columbus, US
  • Surely you mean... is it better to be cynical or jaded?

    Angela, London
  • People become jaded through repetitive experience. This is reasonable but dull. Cynicism is unreasonable but much more fun.

    Fred, London UK
  • At least if you're jaded it implies you've lived a little. I mean when it comes to wild parties I'm jaded, darling!

    Rachel, New York USA
  • Cynicism is essential for surviving this lousy superficial society. Being jaded is the result of being insufficiently cynical.

    keith leadbetter, edinburgh
  • Embrace your inner cynic. Of course, you get pretty jaded because of this after a while though.

    greg, montreal canada
  • Jaded is infinitely worse than cynical, if only for health reasons. The jaded person has lost the will to live. A cynic will carry on living as they still have something left to fight. Additionally, a cynic can bring about change that the jaded are incapable of. Another point that may have been missed, the optimist tends to see things in their most positive light when perhaps this point of view is not justified nor healthy. As such the optimist is equally incapable of reaction. This can only bring one to the conclusion that the cynic is the highest level of self actualisation possible!

    Charles E Hardwidge, Bristol United Kingdom
  • Actually, a cynic is someone who moans constantly but never does anything about anything and is determined to stay that way. Someone who's jaded hasn't lost the will to change, they've just lost the means. Scratch the surface of a cynic and you'll find someone who simply doesn't have any answers. Polish the surface of a jaded person and you'll find they'll come up good as new.

    R Cooper, Twickenham
  • No. It's better to be cynical or jaded.

    Nigel Smith, Reading UK
  • Cynicism is a term derived from a philsophical school that questions everything without accepting immediate facts. Thus leading to the belief structure that everything must be questioned and nothing is as simple or easy as it seems. Jaded refers to an arrogance that is structered on the "been there, done that, have that tee-shirt" mentality.

    Poly, Liverpool UK
  • Being cynical is the lowest form of humour but the highest form of intelligence

    Kevin smith,
  • Cynics make good reporters.

    Ann Moore, Hampton USA
  • Why should such negative emotions become associated with such a lovely colour as green?

    figbash, England
  • Cynic comes from the Greek and means 'dog-like.' Jaded comes from the middle English and means 'horse-like'. So it depends whether you prefer dogs or horses.

    Karen, Oldham
  • I was cynical when I started to read all of the answers, now I'm jaded.

    Stephen, Nottingham, England
  • It was probably Rupert Murdoch who got you to ask the question, not that I give a f*** anyway.

    David Roberts, St Quentin La Poterie, France
  • Better to be both, then all bases are covered

    Charlotte, Brighton, UK
  • But it is better to be tired or emotional than both.

    Iain Stewart, Sydney, Australia
  • Jaded hobbits are like that only because they've been to Mt.Doom and back. Cynical hobbits never leave the shire. They don't like adventure.

    Greg Montgomery, Watertown, WI, USA
  • I would rather be a cynic; they have better jokes and complain less.

    Camden, Milford, USA
  • Can't remember who said 'a cynic is just a sentimentalist who is afraid of himself', but it makes me think that jaded is veteran cynic with a medal or two.

    Clare, Belfast, Northern Ireland
  • I'm going to go with jaded because being jaded implies that you have a reason for being such... Cynics thrive on the belief that you can't trust anything or anyone, with no solid reasoning... Why? Because if they had reason they'd be jaded!

    Jess, Ft. Drum, NY USA
  • Pessimists tend to become cynical, as they tend to believe the existence of a hidden motive. Optimists, with experience, tend to become jaded, as the world falls short of their expectations. Jaded people tend to become cynical, but cynical people rarely end up jaded. So, being jaded is kind of the scenic route to cynicism.

    Fatch, Milwaukee, WI USA
  • If cynicism robs you of innocent wonder and world-weariness leaves you crippled by the fatigue of living, then they are the same. For which is worse?

    Michael Sircha, Perth, Western Australia
  • Its worse to be jaded. I am very cynical and I love it.

    Herman, Edmond USA
  • A jaded person has been there and done that. A cynic never was.

    Amy, Lakewood Jefferson
  • Cynicism and jaded are one and the same ingredients. The belief of insincere people is a stepping stone and/or a stumble onto loneliness. Ones distrust of peoples' motives distances that person from others. That loneliness results in incidental bordem. Dishonesty makes the walls close in on one's emotions.

    Philip Trepanier, Ottawa, Canada
  • I don't like either alone, together though: the jaded person before becoming jaded makes friends with a cynic and then they both have a great time. So long as the cynic enjoys the doses of optimism and doesn't get annoyed by them. And the optimist doesn't become disillusioned by hanging out with the cynic. Because that would be boring, pointless and gloomy. Cynics and optimists together can be really proactive and make great company: CAN be...

    Lee Simmons, Torbay England
  • It's worse to be jaded. Being cynical is a cognitive state of viewing the motives of other as self-serving. Jaded is when cynicism reaches a point of callous insensitivity.

    Dan Zappone, Austin, TX US
  • A jaded person has loved and lost. A cynic has never loved at all.

    Chris, Tuscaloosa, Alabama United States
  • In my opinion it's better to be jaded; this implies that you have the requisite experience on which to base your jadedness. Cynicism implies that you have no reason to trust anything or anyone; jadedness implies on the other hand that you have reasons behind your lack of trust. Depending on what is, I'm both. So what difference does it really make which it's better to be? The truth of the matter is this: it's better to be neither cynical nor jaded.

    William, Knoxville United States
  • I would say it has a sequence you are first cynical then after accepting you are right to be cynical you then become jaded. After being jaded then you can forget the lot and start being cyncial again

    Ian, Worcester England
  • Cynicism is the rejection of social rules. The irony is that the cynic needs a society with all its rules in order to criticize it. Jaded people have experienced enough of societal events to know that not everything is at it seems; i.e companies announce grandiloquent "transformations" when what they mean is labor cuts; sales people offer you incredible bargains that end up costing more than a regularly priced item. Now, in my opinion, we all are a bit cynics, jaded, optimists, etc. at one time or the other. It's part of a healthy human nature. Someone who defines his or herself as purely one or the other, is an emotionally crippled person.

    Flavio, San Diego USA
  • Cynics tend to bite, jaded people tend to sigh.

    Erik Willekens, Leuven Belgium
  • Cynicism goes hand in hand with scepticism. While being jaded leads to ignorance. If you can choose, choose cynicism, as it will bring you more trouble and thus a more complex life.

    Gerald, Bavaria
  • Cynics can still be full of energy for a task, jaded individuals have temporarily run out of gas.

    Michael Flynn, Phuket Phuket
  • The power of accurate observation is called Cynicism by those who do not possess it ...

    Jack, Boston, England
  • Cynicism differs from pessimism, for pessimists think that everything is negative, and nothing never helps, so they wont do anything. Cynics realise everything is negative and nothing ever helps, but they live with these rules. Cynicism is the best form of wisdom, for it will save you from many disappointments and mistakes in your life.

    Markus Latvala, Nurmo, Finland
  • A jaded person is already asleep, while a cynic is still awake and suffers of this "condition".

    Tim, Potsdam (Germany)
  • I have been called a everything accept a child of God. But for the first time I was told I was cynical? But after doing research I realize that it is a form charm, good wits and intelligence, at least that's the way I see it.

    Ishmael, Baldwyn MS USA
  • Being cynical or being jaded is a set of mind. This being a set of mind means that it can be changed. Change happens because people force change. We should force cynical and jaded people to be different.

    Ruiberto O.F., Bologna Espanja
  • Humbug. You're all lightweights. As we rotate around a giant sinkhole to our certain oblivion, yet still have to pay taxes, buy a mortgage, spend thousands on ungrateful brats and die unloved in vicious and uncaring old people's home; it's better to reflect this miserable state of being by inclinging towards being both jaded AND cynical.

    N Taylor, Brighton UK
  • The question is ambiguous because there are two fundamentally different kinds of cynics: professed, and practising. I am a professed cynic, and a softie at heart. Practising cynics think everyone else is shite, but keep that a secret until they've done their work.

    Anthony Gumbrell, Seattle USA
  • A cynic is someone who looks at the world and sees through the tripe most people accept without questioning it, they express their disappointment with the human race in general through sarcastic comments and remarks. Someone who is jaded does the exact same thing, but instead of telling the rest of the world how stupid they are like cynics do, they simply watch and wait for the world to catch up with them.

    Aoife, Dublin, Ireland
  • Cynics think that people are willing to throw them under the bus. People who are jaded have been under the bus.

    Tom, Chicago, USA
  • Jaded people haven't been there any more than cynics. They really are worthy of criticism, for there failure to do anything or to care. That's all I have to say right now.

    Michele, San Francisco
  • I'm a jaded cynic.

    Martin Poffenberger, Peachtree City, GA USA
  • I am jaded and honestly its not because I was cynical

    Hiren , Dhoraji India
  • I know a cynic, he is almost a friend. Yet this cynic is the kindest of a man. The combination is scary to the jaded optimist I am, when I try to understand if his kindness could be cynicism. I prefer to think that he is the proof that being an optimist is the right way, and if I am jaded it is by the number of claimed cynics.

    Florence Beroud, Paris, France
  • I’m always suspicious of someone who is sceptical of cynicism.

    John, Adirondacks USA
  • Cynics express their cynicism and hence, it is implied that they do it because they, at heart, still retain a tiny amount of belief in the good. If you lose even that, you become jaded. Hence, being jaded is better for yourself as apathy is easier to endure than pain.

    Sam, Munich, Germany
  • Cynical people comment more.

    Garreth , Austin, USA
  • Being cynical means you still have standards. Jaded means you had standards and nobody can meet them.

    Tran Nguyen, St. Louis US
  • The two aren't mutually exclusive. If you aren't both, then what's the point?

    Kevin, Lawrenceville United States
  • When I was asleep I was an naive optimist. When I awoke I became intensly cynical. I commented and commented on and until I found no response so I exhausted myself and with a long sign I became jaded. I know that the jaded must be cured. If jadedness becomes the end, it is most tragic. It's a cycle every growing intelligence has to pass through and not get STUCK at that stage. Isaiah was speaking to the jaded when he wrote "but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint"

    Zarathustra, Maryland USA
  • There is no sadder sight than a young pessimist. Mark Twain but is it possible to go through life and not become a pessimist. If you're paying attention becoming a cynic or being jaded seems like a normal state of the human condition. Ignorance is bliss. The greatest minds go mad.

    tim, hudson valley usa
  • Jade is the aged color of cynicism.

    Kim, Massachusetts USA
  • I've been called jaded and I was offended. I've been called cynical and I told them I was a realist.

    Garp, Calgary Canada
  • The question sounds as though it was written by Noel Coward. I'm sure he could answer it best.

    Bernie, California USA
  • The ultimate screw you dear world in a suicide note: "Dear World, I am leaving you because I am bored. I feel I have lived long enough. I am leaving you with your worries in this sweet cesspool - good luck." - George Sanders, British actor, d. April 25, 1972

    Jerry Ball, San Francisco, US
  • Dorothy Parker was so cynical she even ridiculed suicide (despite several attempts): Razors pain you / Rivers are damp / Acids stain you/ and drugs cause cramp. Guns aren't lawful / Nooses give / Gas smells awful / You might as well live.

    Bernie, Burlingame, California U.S.A.
  • Being cynical gets you through the things that would make you jaded.

    Rob, Mandan, ND USA
  • Why does everyone assume a jaded person has given up on everything? A jaded person has seen enough of a particular situation to know when to move on and try to find something better, a cynic just has an underlying distrust of everything and therefore will not find anything better.

    Rye, Maryland USA
  • I believe it is better to cynical. Being jaded as I am makes risk boring.

    Ricardo Paredes, indio United States
  • Actually, being jaded takes much more energy than being cynical. And either is boring.

    Chloé, Paris France


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